Harmony & Synergy

From My Life to Yours ~ Let's Build Some Bridges!

For all the mommies!

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… actually, this is for all women, not just mommies.  Thank you to those who inspired me to make this!  (You know who you are.)

Click –> HERE <– to watch the video

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Guide to an Orthodox Jewish Wedding

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I am honoured that I was asked to contribute a piece to a beautiful wedding site!  Rachel Cravit, the owner of the site, is a superb writer, and someone that I am also lucky to call a friend.  I hope you enjoy it pass on to wedding invitees that might want the lowdown beforehand.  Here it is!
–> Guide to an Orthodox Jewish Wedding <–

Oh!  And here is an absolutely beautiful article she wrote, introducing me before the wedding article.  What a beautiful soul! I’m so glad we happened to be introduced to each other during that wedding in Jerusalem.  This is exactly the reason why I started this site, and it’s so affirming (that’s not the correct word… is there a word for “filled up with joy, honour, validation, nachat, love, and humility”?) to hear that it has affected someone so deeply.  Rachel, you are a star.  Thank you!
–> Introducing… me! <–

Check out my new blog – All Hair Wrapping!

I just started a new blog called (you’ll love this) ~ WRAPUNZEL

I have moved all my tichel/scarf tying information over there because it was simply getting much too crowded to be a sub-section on this site.  There are also many ladies on here that want to be subscribed to just the scarf wrapping section and not the rest of the site, and I want to honour that need (aka those from other faiths, those dealing with hairloss, and those who want to learn about it for fashion purposes).  I’m very excited to create a site that is *just* about hair wrapping that will hopefully reach an even wider audience!

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I will leave all of the current hair wrapping content on here for a while, but all new content will be posted on the new site (except maybe a monthly update here about what’s going on at Wrapunzel).  Eventually I will be taking the hair wrapping section down from here, unless it’s a personal post or something regarding hair covering in Judaism (halachot, hashkafa, etc.)

My cousin!

I have always wanted to showcase other women wearing headscarves on this website, and I have also wanted to start a series of posts talking about specific people who inspire me.

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Well, this posts covers both –> meet my cousin, Steph, who is both beautiful and brave!

Hanukah Thoughts!

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Here are some of my thoughts about this holiday and what it means to us as Jews living in today’s world.  (Also food for thought to those who don’t celebrate.)  Let me know what you think and chag sameach, world!

Click –> HERE <– to watch

10 INSPIRATIONAL IDEAS… just in time for Shabbat :)

Here are the latest tichel styles I have been experimenting with and wanted to share with you.  Enjoy!

Click HERE to see all ten.

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Three NEW Tichel Videos!

Here are three new tichel videos discussing vastly different topics!  Glasses, Detailed Basic Ties, and the Saris Scarf!

Click on the following pages to check out the new videos!

–> Tichel Tying for Glasses Wearers
-> Detailed Tutorial on Basic Square Scarf Ties (for beginners and those that need a review!)
–> How To Wear the Saris Scarf

Let’s Learn!

 

“Who is wise?  He who learns from all others.” (Pirkei Avot, 4:1)

This is an absolutely groundbreaking concept  and for a long time I have been yearning to take it further.  I came up with an exercise, which I am going to try for the next week and I would like to invite you to join me!  This project will hopefully allow us to take the lessons that we learn from others and apply them to our own lives.  I already have my list of lessons that I hope to learn, and here I describe how how you can make yours.

Take a look at –>  Learning from Others

Current Events

As a somewhat public figure representing observant Judaism, you may wonder about my thoughts on the current war that is happening.  Usually when I can’t find true insight or answers, I don’t write, and that is the case right now.  However, I know that my silence may convey something that is not in keeping with what I hope to give, and that is the reason why I am sharing. I am truly scared to write and can only pray that my words help create some light in this dark time.

For those of you that know me, you’ll know that Israel is my home.  It is my home in a way that defies proximity, politics, time, and space.   I miss it every day and love the land from a deep place that even I don’t understand.  Years ago I ran towards it like one would into a lover’s arms, and left everything that one could want in order to find what I truly needed.  The land of Israel holds and protects me like mother would a child… and there is nothing like snuggling into Jerusalem’s warmth.  At the same time, when my home is hurting, I hold her like I would a daughter, and we cry together, our pain as one.

How do I feel upon reading the news?  Confusion.  Fear.  Isolation.  Darkness.  Pain.   I was at a loss for words and still am, even though I continue to write.  I also know that there is something else going on here.  This is not about the IDF, Hamas, Bibi, or the odd fact that the most recent war in Israel also happened between the last US and Israeli election.  This is not about media bias, politics, anti-semitism, defence, or who is in the wrong.  This is not about left wing or right wing.  All of these things are here to distract us from what is actually going on.  Those of us who have experience the infinite will know that there the divine force is always at work and this is what is truly going on here.

This is not happening “because of them”.  And it will not become right “because of them”.

This is happening because of me.  Because of you.  Because of all of us.  But most importantly, this is happening FOR me.  This is my responsibility, and it is happening in order to move me someplace.  But where?  And why?

I am not Gd, nor do I want to be.  Therefore none of us will ever know the true answer to why.  Maybe we will know some of the answers in hindsight, as we do with the slavery in Egypt, but now is not the time, and perhaps we will never know.  But I can try to find the answer to the question, “where”?

Where do I need to go as a result of what is happening?  What do I need to fix?  What do I need to let go of?  What is the infinite trying to tell me?

I can’t tell you your answer, only you can do that, but I can tell you mine.  I need to let go of a petty problem that is hurting me and not allowing me to move forward and connect to others honestly. I need to pray, really pray, and start talking to the divine in the way that I know I’m capable of but am afraid to try.  I need to realize how truly simple things are, and that it is only myself and my lack of love in certain areas of my life that makes this world seem complicated.

We all need to realize that this current event is happening in order to challenge us.  Those of us who are Jewish need to remember that our reason for being here is tikkun olam, and our very existence defies statistics and logic.  In order for there to be peace, we will need miracles… but this world is built upon miracles!  We need to pray with every shred of our being.  We need to realize that we are more than this.  Every single soul in this beautiful creation is more than this.

I love you all very much.  I am so sorry that this is happening, and I am praying for miracles, peace, reconnection and resolution. Please know that wherever you are, I am holding you through your tears and I know that you are holding me too.

May we have peace on this earth soon, and bravery to end this exile from our true selves.  May those who are hurting be healed and may we learn how to love each other without the boundaries that seek to destroy that which we know to be true.

Chodesh tov.

MORE Shomer Negiah!

This seems to be a hot topic, so here is a follow-up video about shomer negiah (guarding one’s touch with the opposite sex).  The first video, made a few weeks ago, is for those that aren’t ready yet to take on this concept.  This new video (below the first one on the page) is for those that are starting to take it on, or for those that need a refresher.  In it you’ll learn about how to tell your friends, how to avoid embarrassment and strategies for handling awkward situations.  Enjoy and please share your thoughts!

Check it out –> HERE is the NEW Shomer Negiah Video