6. For the Love of Men
We have grown up in a generation where in order for girls to rule, boys must drool.
Where in order to be good enough, we must be better than.
Where in order for women to be the solution, men must be the problem.
Where putting down and bashing men is seen as empowering.
Has this behavior increased our self worth?
Is it really true that empowering ourselves has to come at the expense of putting “the other” down?
Think about it.
Take some time to deeply consider that maybe what we are told is actually doing the opposite of what we think.
Not only are we hurting men.
We are hurting ourselves.
We must realize,
Males are not our enemy.
(Yes, there will always be people that want to bring others down, males and females both included – these are not the people I am referring to.)
I am talking about our fathers, our brothers, husbands and sons.
The men who love us, and want nothing but the most amazing things for us.
These are the men that we pass on the street every day.
And loving them, not resenting them, is the answer.
Separating ourselves in order to blame others is the root of all the evil that resides in this world.
And we have the power to end this.
We must realize that we are all on the same side.
Every single human being.
We all essentially want happiness, fulfillment and connection for each other and for ourselves.
It is not liberating to put others down.
We don’t have to point out weakness in order to feel strong.
This only makes us weaker.
Let us say it loud and clear:
Today and every day of our lives.
“I love my husband.
I love father, brothers, mentors and friends.
I love all men, and I know we are on the same side.
And I truly appreciate how much they love us.”
I want men to know, that believe it or not, this is why I dress modestly, avoid touching you, and do my best to separate myself from anything to do with you and the woman that you love.
It is because I truly value you, and want you to be everything that you hope to be.
Let’s remember that the first human being was created as both woman and man.
And we were separated into different sexes so we can choose to be closer.
That’s why, when we hurt men we are also hurting ourselves.
Because we are different parts of the same creation.
I know now that when I hurt my husband I am damaging myself.
And when I don’t care for myself, it hurts my soulmate
Remember, that your relationship with your husband IS your relationship with yourself.
More than anything, our children want to see a loving relationship between their parents, where we put our life partner before others.
This is what our generation is yearning for. More than high powered jobs, and expensive schools.
Children need to see their parents choosing to love each other and learning to grow together each and every day.
Too often we put jobs, children, and helping others before our relationship with our husbands.
But when my relationship with my husband is rocky, these things crumble as well.
And when I put my husband before all of these other things, my life becomes more fulfilling, and everything else falls into place.
Every generation has its own unique chains.
Let’s break ours.
Let’s realize that putting others down is not a part of building ourselves up.
Let’s realize that giving does not equal being had.
Let’s realize that we are not alone, and liberation can only happen when we hold hands with our opposites.
We live in a world where separation is what we see.
Physical versus spiritual.
Man versus woman.
Light versus darkness.
Loving kindness versus discipline.
But we know that in truth, these “opposites” are one.
And our job in this world is to bring them together.
We must do our part to build bridges, and make synergy happen.
Let’s realize that loving men does not come at the expense of loving ourselves.
Let’s realize that when one sex “wins”, both lose.
Let’s take moment, today and every day, to appreciate the incredible men in our lives.